The Way of the Samurai is found in death. When it comes to either/or, there is only the quick choice of death. It is not particularly difficult. Be determined and advance. To say that dying without reaching one’s aim is to die a dog’s death is the frivolous way of sophisticates. When pressed with the choice of life or death, it is not necessary to gain one’s aim.
We all want to live. And in large part we make our logic according to what we like. But not having attained our aim and continuing to live is cowardice. This is a thin dangerous line. To die without gaming one’s aim is a dog’s death and fanaticism. But there is no shame in this.
This is the substance of the Way of the Samurai. If by setting one’s heart right every morning and evening, one is able to live as though his body were already dead, he gains freedom in the Way. His whole life will be without blame, and he will succeed in his calling.
The optimist and the pessimist are frightened by plain reality.
It is nearly impossible to live life in its naked truth, without attempting to put either a positive or negative expectation on the future. I am convinced that working with life exactly as it is and exactly as it occurs is the ultimate faith.
“It’s only in uncertainty that we’re naked and alive” ==Peter Gabriel
Sexual romance is a trick played by nature that’s gets ignorant aggressors close enough to procreate and close enough to face their respective character flaws.
I have seen so many couples that treat each other disgracefully. It is as if they have entered a social contract to maintain a relationship in which they can act out all their childhood neuroses on each other.
The enlightened alternative is to enter into a relationship knowing full well that you need to learn to face your personal flaws. The relationship will bring you face to face with each of your flaws and you will have an opportunity to face and outgrow your neurosis.
All anxiety comes from not facing your situation. ==Chogyam Trugpa
Once God or spirituality is understood, it becomes currency for the ego to crave, hoard and use for its own empowerment.
Righteousness is the end of open-mindedness and the abandonment of the process of expansion.
As a seeker, I am an expanding man.
Being true to ones-self and allowing time to occur is how one finds ones true place in the universe.
As a person develops spiritually, it becomes more natural to make decisions and take actions that are based on the right choice, not the easy one. One finds that there is still pain, but not regret, for these choices. In other words, if I could go back, I would do the same thing again.
This is literally “Doing the best you can”.
The role of a non-sexual male in a girl’s life must be purposeful and intentional on the part of the man.
The non-sexual male plays a critical role in forming a girls opinion of men. It is integral to how she values men and ascertains her value with respect to men.
Attention seeking behavior in men and women has its roots in childhood relations and in childhood valuations.
“I’m standing in a storm with just two things that look like jumper cables saying ‘Yeah, where’s the broken daddy box?” ==Mark Maron
Blame is the externalization of one’s personal choice.
Never admitting to having done wrong is the basis of being a victim. It is he, she, them or it that is your problem and therefore it is he, she them or it that is your answer. The only thing missing in this is life you.
And that actually is the problem.
A warrior is a volunteer not a victim.
Divorce is when the un-addressed personal inadequacies and the thinly veiled aggression of the sexual relationship becoming truly known and the individuals don their pride and self-justification as armor against each other.
We view relationships as fixes or places to hide, instead of seeing them as divine guidance form the universe bringing us face to face with the weakness and sickness that we must work through to grow as individuals.
The middle aged man tries to use wisdom to flirt with youth, in an attempt to remain vibrant.
I cling to youth and will not let go, but yet cannot forgive it for its shallowness.
Shakespeare said, “to thine own self be true”.
The opposite of being true is being false. Being false is the problem, being true is the answer.
“Truth is the will and purpose of God in man.”