Sexual romance is a trick played by nature that’s gets ignorant aggressors close enough to procreate and close enough to face their respective character flaws.
I have seen so many couples that treat each other disgracefully. It is as if they have entered a social contract to maintain a relationship in which they can act out all their childhood neuroses on each other.
The enlightened alternative is to enter into a relationship knowing full well that you need to learn to face your personal flaws. The relationship will bring you face to face with each of your flaws and you will have an opportunity to face and outgrow your neurosis.
All anxiety comes from not facing your situation. ==Chogyam Trugpa