Being true to ones-self and allowing time to occur is how one finds ones true place in the universe.
As a person develops spiritually, it becomes more natural to make decisions and take actions that are based on the right choice, not the easy one. One finds that there is still pain, but not regret, for these choices. In other words, if I could go back, I would do the same thing again.
This is literally “Doing the best you can”.